our wedding: the big day

previous posts here: the venue // pre-ceremony day one

the big day was finally here! now if you ask charles how he remembers the hours before we got married, he probably wouldn't remember much. unfortunately, he got stuck doing ALL the running around and last minute preparations. and he took care of jc about 90% of the time leading up to the ceremony. being the bride, i got to be locked away in our room for the whole day. i compared getting married to having a baby. as the woman, you do all the prep work, all the planning, all the worrying up until the moment it actually happens. then, you end up relying on so many people to make sure that your "vision" comes through the way you wanted it to. i did all that i could to make sure everything was put in it's proper place, laid out the way i wanted it to but when it got down to it, i couldn't be the one actually doing anything. which drove me CRAZY. until i realized there was nothing i could do about it, so i might as well enjoy my time. 

in the morning, charles and i went our separate ways. he ran around like a crazy person, trying to organize everything, help the few vendors that we did have and get ready. luckily for the dudes, getting ready was a twenty minute process. oh we girls had to take all morning! my hairdresser arrived and started the prep work on my hair then did all the bridesmaids hair. i worked on getting our playlist for the reception ready. after my hair was done, i did my own makeup. i was actually very happy with how it turned out considering that i don't spend a lot of time with eyeshadow normally. i then proceeded to write my vows. i know, i know! i actually planned on writing them that day. i already knew in my head what i wanted to say, it was just a matter of taking pen to paper. after we were all ready, it was just a waiting game until i got into my dress. i wanted to wait until the last minute, fearing that i would get it dirty. my sister (who was my maid of honor) helped me zip up my dress and tie the sash. 

charles watched jc the majority of the time. considering all that was going on, jc behaved amazingly well. i was worried he wouldn't take a nap but he did. he was very clingy with charles, especially when they were taking their pictures. and he always had his thumb in his mouth and mr. bear clung tightly to his side.

after we were ready, the girls and i just waited leisurely upstairs while the guests started to arrive and make their way down to the beach. i remember feeling very calm and relaxed. everyone kept asking how i was feeling, if i was nervous. and i wasn't. i was so ready for this day and ready to get married. the most stressful part was over, now all we had to do was get it done.

photography: stina reffitt photography // hair: cheri knight // dress: etsy shop, retromood but i can't seem to find her shop anymore! // bridesmaid's dresses: flossy dossy // groomsmen/groom's shirts: h&m // groomsmen/groom vests: six star uniforms // jc's shirt: carter's // jc's vest: mind your marlos // jc's pants: children's place // bowties: solidcolorneckties.com // ring pillow: knit by me!

check back soon for the details on the ceremony!

our wedding: pre-ceremony day one

welcome to the second post in the "our wedding" series! if you missed the first post detailing our wedding venue, you can view that here. while i know everyone wants to see all the "pinterest worthy" pictures and all that jazz, i want to detail (or at least go over) the happenings of the days that we were in fort bragg. if only just for me so i can remember because honestly, those days went by in such a blur! but don't worry, those pretty pictures will come soon enough!

we set out on our journey to fort bragg on the morning of may 4th. our caravan included my family, charles's family, and most of the wedding party. in our car, it was just charles, jc and i. jc has not been known as the best road tripper so i was a little worried about setting out on this four hour drive. but he did great! stayed awake the whole time (unfortunately) but stayed in good spirits. until we got about twenty minutes out from our destination. the last thirty or so minutes of the drive are through a very windy road up and over some mountains. i heard jc whining so i offered him an applesauce squeezy pouch which promptly got thrown up along with some chicken nuggets all over jc, his bear, and his car seat. that was fun. we pulled over and we managed to strip jc down and clean his car seat as well as we could and make it to our destination on time, just slightly puke covered.




we arrived first and were shortly greeted by our guests. everyone unloaded their cars, rooms were assigned and we started getting to it. like i said previously, we did everything ourselves. if i could have afforded to pay for a wedding planner or assistant or anything like that, i would have definitely paid for it because it was STRESSFUL! it took everything in my overthinking, overstressed out head to not freak out on everyone. i was just so thankful that everyone was super (beyond what anyone would expect) helpful and that our wedding day was finally here!

the weather was being very touchy. having our wedding on the northern california coast, i knew wind, rain and cold weather were all very likely. this day the wind was K-RAZY! so crazy i had to use a "K" instead of a "C". it looked like rain wasn't going to be a problem but the wind, oh man, it was bad. let's just say i was happy to partake in some "after the babies go to sleep" festivities.


to help ease my stress while the babies were awake, we took a trip down to the beach. the beach is a short walk from the house through meadows and fields. very pretty. we also had to decide for sure where we were going to have the ceremony. we had only visited the house once (and a year prior) before this day so our memory wasn't the best. but we found a perfect spot.



the boys help set up the tables and chairs that we rented from a local party supply business. i don't know how we made it fit on that deck but we did it. that was a major issue for me, worrying about how all of our tables and chairs were going to fit. when we picked our venue, we figured we'd maybe have 30 or 40 people who would actually want to make the drive out for the wedding. but more people really like us than we thought! we ended up with close to 60 guests so to say i was stressed about this would be an understatement. but it worked out and everyone had a place to sit!

we ended up having a very impromptu rehearsal dinner of round table pizza and sodas. classy, i know. i was also very worried about how the ceremony was going to work. we didn't have anyone to help direct us so we had to just count on everyone knowing when to go, where to stand, etc. over and over again charles had to be my reminder that it is not that big of a deal. yes it is our wedding but if someone doesn't walk fast enough or stand where they are supposed to, it is not the end of the world.

after the babies were put to bed, i enlisted the help of some of my bridesmaids plus one of the groomsmen's super awesome helpful girlfriend to make our bouquets. then there may have been some drinking. but the bouquets turned out great! keeping them super simple definitely made the difference.


now when i say we did everything ourselves, i mean it. we didn't even have a dj. and i kept putting it off so i ended up staying up way too late trying to go through ALL of our music to make our wedding playlist. the problem was that i tried to include charles in this task. we have similar music tastes but charles doesn't really understand what people want to hear or dance to at a wedding. super sad folk music the whole time? not going to cut it. i stayed up til probably two in the morning and still didn't finish it. i had to work on it the next day while i was getting my hair done! but hey, it all worked out in the end.

going to bed that night was not hard because i was exhausted but nothing could prepare me for the next day's events! check back soon for the next part of the series!

sidenote: most, if not all, of these photos were taken by our awesome friend mike. almost all the groomsmen are photographers and were taking pictures the whole time and for that, i am thankful.

currently. v.1

wendy over at This Amazing Day and randolin at Harvesting Kale co-host this "currently" link up every thursday. every week, they set up a new set of prompts to follow to describe how you currently feel. since i've been a little m.i.a. from the blogging game for a couple months, i decided to join in this week. the next part of the "our wedding" series will be up in the next couple days!

currently, i am...

missing my car! while braving an outing with our partially potty trained toddler, charles's car broke down yesterday. so i've really only had to share my car for one day but i felt so cooped up today! i didn't even have any plans to go anywhere but the fact that i couldn't was enough to make me feel claustrophobic.

craving a bunch of new stuff for our house. since we've had to many ongoing projects, it actually feel like i get new stuff because when we get a room ready, we get to unpack the boxes for that room that have been hanging out in our garage. so it's like shopping our own stuff! buuuuuut that feeling does where off and it would be nice to get a few new things.

anticipating the satisfaction of having a fully potty trained kiddo. while jc has been doing GREAT with peeing in the potty, we are holding off on night training him and he still has yet to go number #2 (sorry non-parental readers!) in the potty. jc is still in his crib so we are going to wait until the changes of wearing underwear all day seems less new before we transition him into a toddler bed. then we can work on night training. as far as the #2 situation, this kid is SO stubborn. he will hold it all day until naptime or bedtime (when he will be put in a diaper) to go. he'll tell us he needs to go, we'll go sit on the potty and nothing happens. we'll sit quietly, read books, talk, listen to music, play on the ipad and still nothing. i even bought him a bunch of matchbox cars that now live in a vase on top of the toilet as an incentive. told him that he can't have one until he goes #2 in the potty. still nothing. i guess he'll just do it when he wants to!

thinking about going on our first family trip to disneyland in october! my mom is trying to get this whole thing planned and i really hope it happens. charles and i have been to disneyland tons of times but jc has not been. i think he's just old enough that he'll have a good time. i am definitely nervous about hundred different things because i over think everything but i am trying to just focus on the good stuff.

singing this:


you're welcome. i HIGHLY recommend you view the original review "un-songified" because it is also one of the funniest things i've ever seen.

again, check out wendy's blog or randolin's blog to link up your post too!

our wedding: the venue

welcome to the first part of a series of posts detailing our wedding that took place on may 5, 2012. i've been disconnected from blogging lately but am ready to come on back. so i thought instead of posting 1093849 pictures in one post, i'd break it up into more manageable chunks.


our wedding venue was definitely not your conventional venue. it was actually a rental house that over looked the beach in fort bragg, ca. we knew from the get-go that we wanted to have our wedding in fort bragg. we got engaged during our "babymoon" where we road tripped from sacramento to british columbia and back. on our way down the coast, we drove through the beautiful northern california coast line and we knew we had to have our wedding there. unfortunately, fort bragg is a good four hour drive from our hometown. with this in mind, we wanted to have the ability to house our wedding party so they wouldn't be bogged down with the added expense of finding a room. we all know being in a wedding can get very expensive and i kept that in mind with every decision that we made. we had a hard time finding a house that would let us have a wedding there but nye ranch pulled through! there was no "staff", just a house, so we did everything ourselves. we had to keep a pretty tight budget for this wedding. while i don't have a hard figure, i'd say we definitely kept it under $5000 but we were only able to do so because we have awesome family and friends who were all down to help. i would definitely recommend this type of venue to someone looking to have a laid back location with room for people to crash. but you have to keep in mind that to have that "laid back" feel, you need to put in a lot of work yourself!




our venue really set the tone for the wedding style. the home has a very rustic, country feel but being on the coast, it was very green and lush as well. i chose navy blue and kelly green as our wedding colors to complement the natural colors already present at the venue. the property also housed a barn and resident llamas (alpacas? i can't remember) who we probably kept awake during our crazy antics during the reception.




we had our wedding party and a few family members arrive one day prior to the ceremony and help us set up all the tables. the house easily slept our ten person wedding party, a couple strays, a couple babies and ourselves. our wedding was relatively small (50-60 guests including the bridal party) so we were able to easily have our ceremony take place on a bluff overlooking the beach and the reception on the back deck of the house. there was also a small grassy field with fire pits that definitely got some use during our chilly reception.



i love this house so much, i'd love to be able to go back just for fun!

check back in a couple days for more wedding posts!

holy crap i am blogging

oohhhhhh snap, we're back! after taking a long much needed break, i've decided that i missed blogging tremendously. i've missed connecting with others and documenting all the milestones going on with jc. i haven't blogged in four months and i haven't read any blogs for probably about half that time.

luckily, i follow most of my favorite bloggers on twitter, instagram or facebook so i have a good idea of what's going on but i have not been a good blog reader. i've been gone so long from my blog that blogger and flickr are both different now! geez. basically, i felt a little overwhelmed by everything going on in our lives and i just needed to disconnect for a little while.

i've got a lot to catch everyone up on, including the fact that i am no longer someone's fiancee or girlfriend but a wife! all those photos have been yelling at me to share and i suck so i haven't. but i will. thanks for sticking around!